I am very aware that I have not written a post for some time. I’ve been sat here wondering why. It’s not that I have nothing to write about, our life is pretty chaotic and each day brings new challenges. Plenty of which I could write about. I suppose sometimes it is difficult to share the daily issues that we face for fear of judgement or a lack of understanding. But then again how can people understand if it is not shared! Maybe we have got to a point in our lives where we have learnt to manage my little boy’s behaviour in a way that works for him and for us, and most of the time it is easier to just get on with it on our own. (That’s not to say that we don’t appreciate help and support that is offered!) A year ago I think we felt a little lost with it all but now we feel more in control (generally!) and at ease with the situations that we face. In addition, we finally got the diagnosis which we feel is most fitting for my little boy – autistic spectrum disorder with PDA traits. This has been a big relief as we now feel that we can finally ensure that he receives the right support.
This time last year my little boy was not in school, his mainstream placement had failed and we weren’t sure whether he would be offered a place at a specialist school or need to be home educated. Thankfully he did get a place at a specialist school, where he began in September. It hasn’t been easy getting him back to the routine of school life but we are getting there. It can be tricky getting him to school some mornings but he is always very happy when I collect him at the end of the day, He has even made some friends and progressed academically. To see him take part in his school Christmas play was the icing on the cake. A very emotional event as we felt so immensely proud to see just how far he has come, having gone through a period of time earlier in the year when he had completely isolated himself.
His return to school has had a positive effect on the whole family. His siblings at least know what’s happening day to day, and my husband can go to work without worrying quite so much! In between the school runs I now have the time to catch up on housework (what fun!!) and deal with all the other aspects that come with a busy family life!
We have also been lucky enough to make some new friends in our local PDA support group, who have children with similar issues. This has undoubtedly helped us all, as we realise that we are not alone as they too face similar difficulties. To be able to share stories and support one another is invaluable. We are so thankful for their friendship.
As we come to the end of 2017, I hope that the new year will bring more stability, greater confidence and more happiness. I’ve a feeling that 2018 will be quite a significant year. My eldest will turn 18 (!), my middle child will prepare to take his GCSE’s and my little boy will (fingers crossed!) complete a whole year at the same school!
Happy New Year to everyone who takes the time to read my blog and who supports us along our journey. Thank you xx